Valentine's Day - February 2010 Movie

My wife and I watched "Valentine's Day" at the Festival Mall in Alabang yesterday. It was quite a good one! It's one of those 'feel good' American movies that seem to get you absorbed into the film while you're watching it and gives you this tinge of fulfillment at the end since you know you've learned something good from watching it.

It's a story about how different people spent their Valentine's day. The plot was quite simple, but it was the way the lives of each people in the movie were interconnected that made it cool.

It was my wife and I's first movie together since watching Avatar last January. It gave us the needed break from such a tough week. Hopefully, we'll see a lot of other movies like those in the coming months.

Love... yes... it makes the world go round. It brings you happiness and joys.... and it may give you hurts and aches... but no matter what... you still have to love... because it's the only thing that matters in this world.

St. Paul once said these. (1 Corinthians 13:1)

¹If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. ²If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. ³If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

We might gain everything this world has to offer... become successful and become rich... but without love, these do not matter.

Love is not only limited to that bond that you share with your partner. Love can be the laughter that we share among families... love can be the helping hand that we give to people that we don't even know... love can be the free schooling that you are willing to give to your household helper... love can be the simple pat on the back that you give to a troubled friend...

Love has may aspects, and the important thing is really to show love. And I do not mean by just simply knowing that you love a person... you have to show it.

I'm struggling at doing this myself. I'm hoping that in the future, I will be able to share my love more to others.

Work And Life

Work is part of life. It's something that we'll find to be very useful in this earthly journey. But beware.... WORK IS NOT LIFE.

I had to stress this out because a lot of us, especially single men, get so much into work, that we forget about life. We think that we have to really work hard so we can get a promotion, or perhaps a very big increase in our paycheck. We want to do this so we can have more money, so we can buy more, go to places where we'd like to go. We work so hard because it's part of our pride being men. We have to be the best. We have to show everyone in our work place that 'I'm very good at doing this job!'. People may have different reasons for the drive to work hard. I've heard of some guys who do overtime so they could fund their weekend gimmicks and hang around with a lot of girls. What a motivation. haha. (But this is not what I do. I just stick to one woman.)

Let's get back to work and life. Today I did good with my job. I resolved two issues. "You're really good, man!" my officemate told me. If you were there you would have seen my heart bloat. Quite fulfilling, right?

Wrong.

Today is also paycheck time. What's special about the salary given out this week is that it's supposed to be bigger. It covers the first workweeks when the "salary increase" was implemented. So right after I just got a high-five from my colleague for doing such a good job, I went down to my desk at the basement to check how much I got paid this time. My boss told me I was given a 20% salary increase for being such a hardworking guy. Not bad huh? Considering 20% increase is the largest my company can give to an employee. Excited, I sat on my chair, I opened our online salary statement... and then... to my surprise... I just got an net increase of P1,000 from my previous payslips!!! Hah! So much for the 20% Increase!

We'll, my company didn't cheat me. I got that increase. But most of it just went to tax payments, and I ended up just receiving a very meager pay even though I was killing myself just to finish projects and solve issues at work.

I could fix things at work... but I could not fix things with my life. Working hard does not help me solve my financial problems... it does not help me pay my bills. Even though I get all the commendations, I still wouldn't be able to use them to provide for my family. I couldn't even buy my wife the bag that she likes even with all the kudos I get from the workplace.

My point is, we should not be totally drawn into working. It's only part of life. Even if we fail at work, it does not mean we fail with life. There are a lot of people who don't even work, but succeed greatly. And then, there are these people who are successful at work, but suck in life. It all depends on what our priorities are. For me, I now choose life over work. I've made a very big mistake before. I was thinking too much of closing my projects and tasks that I lost sight of the most important thing... PLANNING WHAT TO DO WITH MY LIFE.

At age 27, I'm just starting to make my plans. Because in the past years I was only concerned about being good in school and then at work... but no plans for the future... just living in a 'come what may' world. Now, I've got a family to raise. It's quite tough now that I'm married and I have not planned on what to do after it.

It's never too late to start... I hope... I just want to make up for the wrong priorities I had in the past.

My Prayer For Today: Lord, please give me a second chance. I just want to make my family happy. Now that I've realized my wrong, help me to do things right... help me to love my wife and family more... so that I can be the best that I am for them in this life You gave us.

Selflessness

SELFLESSNESS...THOUGHTFULNESS...

These are things that I need to learn. I'm not really a bad person. People say that I'm a really good guy. I think I am too. But... it's just that kindness does not occur to me naturally. It's hard to figure out why.

Today a friend visited our house. He needed to borrow something from me. We chatted for a few minutes, shared a few laughs... and just as he was going out the door to say goodbye, my wife told me... "BB, we bought a lot of pineapples last weekend. Let's give one to our friend so he can bring it home." "Sure!" I replied. I went towards our dining table to get the biggest pineapple that we had, and then gave it to my friend. He went home smiling. It's really a nice feeling when someone gives you something.

My wife is a natural giver. Oh! And I love her more for being like this! But I was just thinking...

Why was my wife able to come up with the idea of giving something to our friend, and I did not?

I guess I'm just really self-centered and selfish, and I usually think for myself first than for others.

For many, thinking of other people's needs just seem to be automatic. For me, it's quite hard. I need to concentrate on situations before I can tell what people need. For these past few weeks, I've been trying to figure out why. This isn't the first time I've been tagged as "selfish". Well, as of now, I think I have a bit of a hint. It's probably how I have dealt with people ever since I was young. I was a bit choosy with my friends. I didn't hang out with a lot of people. You could say I'm the kind of person who usually has more time alone than with others. It's hard for acts of kindness towards other people to come naturally, when you've been used to just dealing with yourself almost all the time.

Lesson for the day: Try to think of others more than yourself.

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